Men & Therapy

Men’s Therapy in Vancouver

Most men are taught to suffer in silence. When life knocks them down, when traumatic events occur, or when relationships break down, men are often socialized to simply ignore the pain. They are told to double down, work even harder, and keep it all to themselves. But humans are simply not designed to “go it alone”. The isolation creates a downward spiral of shame, depression, and despair. The unprocessed pain often gets funneled into the only emotion men are taught to express - anger. This anger response can further harm their relationships and deepen the isolation. In order to cope, some men will turn to forms of addiction, which can lead to dangerous situations or further levels of despair. The statistics prove that more and more men die alone and in pain, often believing the world would be better off without them.

But it doesn’t have to be this way. The myth of the “lone wolf” is just that - a myth. In order for healing to take place, it must be done in the context of a safe relationship. Men need the space where they can share what’s on their mind without fearing judgement. Most therapies, though well meaning, are designed with those who are socialized to be open with their emotions in mind. When most men walk into a therapy office, they aren’t sure what to expect or how to answer the question “How do you feel about that?” What’s more, most men are looking for solutions and a path forward, not just a chance to “feel their feelings”. A good treatment plan provides both a safe space and a practical approach to solving their every day issues.

Cedar River Counselling offers therapy specifically designed for men in Vancouver and virtually across Canada.